Baby Toes and Barolo(s)
Soooo, being a mom of two is even more chaotic than I thought it would be. Hubs and I welcomed our baby girl into the world on August 13th and we are completely enamored with her. Our little dude adores her equally, although he expresses his love a little roughly sometimes. I've had a few sips of wine here and there since giving birth, but I have a little evening cluster feeder on my hands, so I haven't been able to enjoy an actual glass of wine yet and will probably need to wait until she's a month old when we begin to introduce her to a bottle. A bottle of milk, you guys. ;) Hence, this will be more of an update/SomMOMlier post rather than a nerdy wine one.
Things I've learned about adding a second child to your family:
- For the first few weeks, you'll go back and forth between "I can't do this" and "I got this down!" until you
stumblesettle into a routine that works for your family and all is well again.
- Hell hath no fury like a firstborn toddler. The newborn baby is the easiest part of expanding your family - the true challenge will be your oldest little. After a couple of days it will sink in that the baby is here to stay and your firstborn child will delve into the dark, watery depths of their soul and unleash their worst behavior. And it will be directed solely at you. The kid just wants the same amount of attention from you and acting out is one way to get it, even if it is negative attention. I quickly learned that as long as it isn't dangerous to himself or others, temporarily ignoring some of the minor bad behavior makes the day a little smoother. Once he's fully adjusted to the new family size, reintroduce the usual correction tactics. For the bigger issues, acknowledging that he's feeling upset and helping him redirect it works best for us! Most importantly, in my opinion, is to carve out some one on one time with your first child. Laughing at the baby's poop noises together helps too :) On the weekends, we spend the morning together as a family and then hubs and I each have solo time with one kid, then switch kids the next day. Since we started doing this, I've noticed a big difference in bubs' attitude. So far, so good!
- A carrier that your baby likes is PRICELESS. Hands free is the way to be when you're the mother of more than one. You'll likely have to buy a few different types to find one that the baby will tolerate, so you may waste a little money, but once you find the perfect one IT IS ALL WORTH IT. The babe hated and I mean hated the Moby wrap and a Graco carrier, but she loves the Ergobaby 360. She briefly protests at first, then almost immediately falls asleep and I can go about my day playing with the bubs or running errands, plus I don't have to think about her morning nap because she can do it on the go. A good carrier definitely ties into that precious one on one time and is one of the best purchases you will ever make. Seriously. For me, it's right up there with our house, car, and a nice grill. I'll venture to say that it brings me more joy than a fully stocked wine fridge. #wearallthebabies
- Cold brew your coffee. The concentrate takes at least 12 hours to brew, but once you have a carafe full of life giving liquid, you're set for a couple of weeks. It takes 30 seconds to make your morning caffeine fix and you can chug it in about as much time. You're welcome.
I'm sure I'll have plenty more to say when I'm more than 2 weeks into this. Do you have any advice for new mamas of two+, my dear readers?